Have you heard of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts? This is a fabulous book that can really change your perspective, and more importantly, your actions. I recommend reading this book along with your husband, a great way to get a conversation started.
Author Gary Chapman gives a little preview:
Gary Chapman has also written several other titles which you may find interesting:The Five Love Languages Singles Edition
The 5 Love Languages Men's Edition: The Secret to Love That Lasts
Covenant Marriage: Building Communication & Intimacy